When It’s Appropriate to Renegotiate Sugar Terms

As any good Sugar Baby knows, the initial contract sets the tone for the whole relationship. But as that relationship progresses, either through growth or time, wants and needs change. What worked for you both then may not work for you now.

As the relationship evolves, or if you find you two are spending more time together than you were in the outset, then it’s time to renegotiate your contract. Of course, renegotiation should be a win-win for both sides; a mutually agreed upon positive change that you are both comfortable with. Sit down face to face and discuss.

This should not be something that is done over the phone or computer. Determine what the minimum needs are that you require that aren’t being met, what you’d like and negotiate from there. If at all possible, take emotion out of the equation and just concentrate on the pragmatic issues that need to be dealt with.

For the Sugar Baby, decide what specifically you are looking for at this phase in your relationship. You should know each other well enough that you have an idea of what you can and cannot ask for – just like in your vanilla relationships. 

Are you looking to move to a more permanent arrangement? Are you more interested in help paying bills or loans, more time with your SD, or are you more interested in trips to expand your horizons? What has been done for you in the past that you enjoyed and what has been done that you didn’t enjoy? Really give it some thought and set realistic expectations. Keep in mind that he was upfront about what he was prepared to offer, too, and that may not have changed. 

For the Sugar Daddy, your expectations are more direct. What do you need to provide to get that companionship you want? Is there anything you want to add to your current relationship with your SB? More time, more loving, more conversation… Set a limit – whether that’s financial or time-driven, and work towards that. Think about what you can offer your SB to make those changes happen. Can you provide a monthly allowance, so she can spend less time at work and more time with you?  

You both come to the table with different strengths – so make sure you leave the same way – as equals in a mutually enjoyable relationship!

A post from SeekingArrangement Blog.